Hello out there. Hello to you, person who is so caught up in defending the sanctity of marriage ad nauseum. I just wanted to point out something about your precious, sacred, heterosexual marriage.

I’m in one of those. Yep. Found someone I love who makes me snort loudly and geeks out with me and puts up with my moods who just so happens to be of the opposite sex. We got engaged in due time, but then I ended up pregnant. Hanging out and enjoying our son while sharpening our parenting skills, we waited a few years to officially tie the knot. But then, we went right on down to the courthouse and made it official. Ahhhhh. Marriage. Yet in no way divine or sacred, in the religious sense.

You see, I’m an atheist.

We both knew there would be no church blessings, prayers or hymns involved in this union. This was purely to get all the rights and privileges brought to us by the lovely United States of America. So, in a sense, haven’t I ruined the “sanctity” of marriage just by….marrying? If you happen to use the first definition of Sanctity: noun, holiness, saintliness, or godliness. Well all that is just bull to me. Phooey on you, I didn’t do it for or to be blessed by any god. And if you are so God abiding in your thinking, then more than just gays have ruined marriage: anyone divorced, those married who choose not to have children because your big reason for marrying is procreation, and myself, for not only having a child out of wedlock but being atheist as well.

And if your definition is Sanctity: noun, a sacred thing, with no religious implications whatsoever (which I kind of find hard to believe, but I’ve a decent imagination) marriage is sacred, like “reverently dedicated to some person, purpose, or object” sacred. Well, shoot! I find it hard to believe that homosexual couples can’t be dedicated to each other. Or at least less dedicated than any heterosexual celebrity couple has been to their marriage. Really, does anyone believe that?

If we heteros got married with no religious meaning, totally by the state, why can’t anyone do that much? How would that offend or affect you? Wouldn’t I have been making a mockery of your religion had I stood in front of the church, making vows all the while rolling my eyes and thinking “to me this is utter bullshit, why didn’t we just go to the courthouse?”

Oh I’ve no doubt you know how I voted on Prop 8. And, why yes, I am very interested in the federal court case going on now.

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